The Divorce-Stress Scale

Check all factors that apply to your situation for the past 24 months. Circle the score of that factor. If you have experienced one of these events two times, multiply that number by 2 (or three or however many times you’ve experienced it). Once you’ve circled all the numbers that apply, add them up and use the scale below to determine how likely you are to get sick.

  Below 300 – moderate chance of sickness
  Between 301 and 600 – high likelihood of illness
  601 – 999 – extremely high risk of illness
  1000 or more – get to your doctor now

 

SITUATIONS – CHECK ALL THAT APPLY:

  • You begin to consider divorce as a real option to your marital troubles 70
  • Your spouse announces s/he is unhappy in the marriage 80
  • Your spouse asks to have an open marriage 100
  • You decide today is the day to tell your spouse of your desire
  • to get divorced 125
  • You have a same-sex marriage in a state that doesn’t recognize gay
  • marriage (or divorce) 150
  • Your spouse is leaving you for someone of your opposite gender 170
  • Your spouse announces s/he is ending the marriage with no notice 280
  • You find out your spouse is having an affair 285
  • You find out your spouse is having an affair with someone close to you 290
  • You come home from a trip away and your spouse has moved out with no notice that anything was wrong 300
  • You come home and find all your belongings in the driveway with no notice that anything was wrong 350
  • You have no children (so divorce means you lose your nuclear family) 80
  • You have three or less children 100
  • You have between four and eight children 125
  • You have over eight children 175
  • Your kids are out of the house 60
  • Some of your kids are teenagers 90
  • You have one or more special needs children 100
  • All are over 5 years old 100
  • Your kids are teenagers 120
  • Some are under 5 years old, some over 125
  • Your kids are all under 5 years old 150
  • You’re independently wealthy 0
  • You are nesting (you each move in and out of the house) 75
  • Your spouse doesn’t work (but needs to) 85
  • You don’t work (but you need to) 85
  • Your spouse owns his or her own business 95
  • You own your own business 125
  • You or your spouse just started a new job 125
  • You or your spouse has been fired recently 150
  • You know nothing about the finances 150
  • You’re sharing a home but there is a great deal of tension 150
  • You don’t trust that your spouse is or will be honest about the finances 180
  • You are homeless 180
  • You and your spouse work together 185
  • Your house is in foreclosure or some type of distress 200
  • You and your spouse own a company together 225
  • Your attorney doesn’t return your calls 80
  • You don’t feel like your attorney is really working on your behalf 80
  • You don’t like your attorney 100
  • Your spouse hired the meanest attorney in town 120

 

  Below 300 – moderate chance of sickness
  Between 301 and 600 – high likelihood of illness
  601 – 999 – extremely high risk of illness
  1000 or more – get to your doctor now

 

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/contemplating-divorce/201207/where-are-you-the-divorce-stress-scale

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