Having strong self-esteem is critical, especially during the teen years. This is true for the following reasons:
Self-esteem is a significant factor in how each of us manages our life.
How we feel about ourselves guides the choices we make, how we feel, how we respond to events, and just about everything else we do.
Strong self-esteem enables us to make constructive choices for ourselves and others.
When our self-esteem is weak, we tend to make choices based on what others think and want, rather than on what is really best for us.
You can help your teen build and maintain his or her self-esteem in the following ways:
Listen to what your teen is saying to you, in words and actions.
Ask your teen’s opinion about things and accept it.
Remind yourself that your teen needs to differentiate them from you. That is their job as an adolescent, and it is healthy. Allow them to do it.
Let them know that you love them.
Let them know that you will always be there for them.
Give them permission to explore ideas.
Don’t be threatened when they expresses themselves.
Encourage them to express their feelings appropriately.
Look for ways to maintain your own self-esteem. If you are unhappy, discontent, or disappointed in how your life is turning out, it will be difficult for you to build the self-esteem of your children..